Rick G asks: I’m new to Buddhism & often have questions. Can a romantic relationship coexist with Buddhism? I want to avoid attachment and desire.
Lama Surya Das: Relationships are an important part of life, if not the essence of it, and romance certainly plays its part. Buddhism is not against that. In fact, many Buddhists are romantically attached, married, have families and so forth. This includes Buddhist leaders, priests, meditation masters, gurus and so forth. (Monks and nuns are celibate, and lay Buddhists...
One of the questions most often posed to me is, ”How can we find time to meditate and do yoga amidst our busy lives?”
We have all the time we need; it’s a matter of how we choose to use it. I often feel like that broken record repeating… it’s not time we lack, but focus and prioritization! Once we realize how much time and energy we squander daily in habitual, mindless pursuits, or simply in looking for love and fulfillment in the wrong places, an entirely new intention and way of paying attention...
The first Asian woman (she’s Chinese) made it to the final match of the
Australian Open tennis tournament last week and lost, but gave a good showing; and the world’s female chess champ is now a highly touted and
seemingly amazing genius 13 yr. old Chinese prodigy who they say might be able to eventually beat the top male grand masters and become overall world
champ. This is symbolic of the rising Dragon (China) and Elephant (India) in
world affairs of everykind, and not just population and economics.
25 Jan 2011 |
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The following question was posed to Lama Surya Das at his Dzogchen Winter Retreat in Garrison, N.Y.
Leo S. asked: Can meditation practice assist in ending suffering?
Lama Surya Das: Sure it can! That is the very purpose of Buddhism, according to the original teachings: to find ourselves and reduce the causes and origins of suffering and dissatisfaction, and bring about a more free, unconditioned, harmonious and delightful way of life. This is all embodied in Buddha’s first teaching at Deer Park outside Benares, known to history as The Four Noble Truths - or four liberating facts of life...
Thank God for Buddhism. Facing cosmic absurdity, I’ve learned to laugh back. When I can separate myself from my own story-line, I always find it interesting that I assume there is a right way to do anything…a secret right way.
Pema Chodron, a Buddhist nun and one of wisest people in the Western World, talks about the importance of “befriending who we already are”. She says that making friends with ourselves is one of the essential goals of meditation and spiritual practice, more important than any other kind of transformation.
This goes against the grain of our American...
Henry R. asks: Why is it so hard to change my life and implement positive new directions? I keep resolving to start doing things differently, like in the New Year for example, but it doesn’t stick?
Lama Surya Das: We all know about New Year’s resolutions, and how often they don’t really work out. Habits are difficult but not impossible to overcome.
The bad news is that we’re heavily conditioned; the good news is that this is simply conditioning, which is the essence of karma— the law of cause and effect. We can consciously recondition and de-condition ourselves, if we work on it— especially...
“I have the audacity to believe that people everywhere can have three meals a day for their bodies, education and culture for their minds, and dignity, equality and freedom for their spirits. I believe that what self-centered men have torn down, men other-centered can build up. I still believe that one day mankind will bow before the altars of God and be crowned triumphant over war and bloodshed, and nonviolent redemptive goodwill will proclaim the rule of the land.” ~ Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
Here are my 10 suggestions to help turn this season into a genuinely spiritual time, making the holidays more meaningful for you and your family:
1. Practice generosity in the form of donating, gift-giving, volunteering, and reaching out by making phone calls and writing. This cultivates cheerfulness and the spirit of giving and doesn’t require or foster overindulgence in consumerism.
2. Share a prayer or inspirational poem or quote with someone.
3. Give yourself a gift, whether material or a gift of time and space for some reflection, noble silence, and solitude.4. Make group meals and holiday...
Lately I have had many questions about how to create a lasting relationship. Several years ago I wrote an article outlining some exercises you can cultivate to attract the relationship you are looking for.
Ten Principles of Sacred Relationships
1. Unselfishness and selflessness—Consciously put your loved one at the center of your heart and cultivate awareness of his/her needs. But don’t go overboard; remember to also take care of yourself. 2. Generosity—Give of yourself, sharing time, things, and emotions.
Susan C: How can we deal with difficult emotions like anger?
Lama Surya Das: One moment of anger can destroy a life or a world, they say. Anger is poisonous, and erodes the heart and soul as well as body and mind, and must be dealt with in a healthy and intelligent manner. Anger is just an inner energy and an emotion; it is not necessarily the same as violence. Feeling it rather than suppressing or indulging it is one of the most important lessons. Mindful anger management helps us create some time to breathe, reflect, and then choose how and if and when to respond, rather than simply reacting...